DAVID’S PATIENCE AND FORBEARANCE

2 Samuel 16:5-12

“As King David approached Bahurim, a man from the same clan as Saul’s family came out from there. His name was Shimei son of Gera, and he cursed as he came out. He pelted David and all the king’s officials with stones, though all the troops and the special guard were on David’s right and left. As he cursed, Shimei said, “Get out, get out, you man of blood, you scoundrel! The LORD has repaid you for all the blood you shed in the household of Saul, in whose place you have reigned. The LORD has handed the kingdom over to your son Absalom. You have come to ruin because you are a man of blood!” Then Abishai son of Zeruiah said to the king, “Why should this dead dog curse my lord the king? Let me go over and cut off his head.” But the king said, “What do you and I have in common, you sons of Zeruiah? If he is cursing because the LORD said to him, ‘Curse David,’ who can ask, ‘Why do you do this?'” David then said to Abishai and all his officials, “My son, who is of my own flesh, is trying to take my life. How much more, then, this Benjamite! Leave him alone; let him curse, for the LORD has told him to. It may be that the LORD will see my distress and repay me with good for the cursing I am receiving today.”

It is thought by many, that situations of rank and eminence are conducive to happiness. But the very reverse of this will be found true for the most part, because people in authority are beset with numberless trials and temptations, to which their inferiors are scarcely at all exposed.

Behold David exalted to a throne; and see to what trials he was reduced, by those who sought his favor, or envied him his power! It is the unhappy lot of kings to be surrounded no less by lying friends, than by bitter enemies. When David fled from Absalom, Ziba, the servant of Mephibosheth, the son of Saul, met him with a present of needful provisions for himself and followers, under a feigned plea that Mephibosheth had joined the conspiracy of Absalom, in the hope of regaining his father’s kingdom; and thus he obtained from David a hasty and inadvertent grant of all Mephibosheth’s possessions; a grant, which David afterwards, when better informed, was constrained to rescind.

Scarcely had David been thus betrayed by Ziba, a pretended friend—before he was fiercely assaulted by Shimei, a bitter enemy, who now took advantage of his misfortunes to load him with all manner of reproaches. From this evil, however, David escaped with far greater honor to himself. In the former case he was imposed upon, and was led to act with unwise precipitation; but in this latter case, when urged to avenge himself on the delinquent, he forbore; and thus manifested a disposition of mind that is worthy of universal imitation.

To place David’s conduct in its true light, I will set before you,

I. David’s heavy trial.

His condition, independent of Shimei’s conduct, was exceedingly afflictive.

He was now driven from his throne, and forced to flee for his life. To this he was forced by his own subjects, led on by his favorite son, Absalom. To be reduced to such an extremity by a foreign foe would have been an exceeding great calamity; but to be brought to it by his own beloved son, at the head of his rebellious subjects—was as afflictive a dispensation as could well be conceived.

But in this cup of sorrow there was an ingredient that was incomparably more bitter than even death itself; namely, a consciousness that it proceeded from God, as a punishment of the sin he had committed in the matter of Uriah. Nathan had long ago delivered to him this warning from the Lord, “Behold, I will raise up evil against you out of your house, 2 Samuel 12:11.” And this judgment had already been executed in part, by Amnon’s ravishing of his sister Tamar; and by Absalom’s murder of his brother Amnon; (in both of which there was a solemn correspondence with his own sins in the matter of Bathsheba and Uriah,) and now it came home more immediately to his own person, in the conduct of Absalom towards himself. This consciousness very deeply oppressed his mind, and added a ten-fold poignancy to all his other stings.

But the conduct of Shimei greatly aggravated David’s misfortunes at this time.

It came upon him at a time when he was wounded and disconsolate under the rebukes of the Almighty! Psalm 69:26. And the bitterness of this man’s reproaches could scarcely be exceeded. Shimei, being a Benjamite, was zealous for his own tribe, from whence the sovereign authority had been transferred to the tribe of Judah. (Such jealousies, alas! pervade all ranks and classes of society throughout the world, from rival states to rival districts, communities, towns, families, and parties of every description; and often the feelings subsisting between the adverse parties, are scarcely less acrimonious than those of Shimei himself.) Besides, being of the family of Saul, perhaps Shimei’s prospects in life were in a great measure blasted; and therefore, while he regarded David as the occasion of his ruin, he considered the Deity himself as vindicating his cause, in the punishment of the usurper.

But his accusation of David, as having imbrued his hands in the blood of Saul, was without the least foundation; for it was well known that he had not been in the least degree accessory to the death of Saul, or Jonathan, or of Abner, or Ishbosheth, or of any whose blood was now laid to his charge. But such an accusation, at such a time, was most distressing to the feelings of the royal sufferer; and also because it brought the more forcibly to his mind the evils which he had indeed committed, and for which God was indeed inflicting upon him this sore punishment.

We wonder not at the indignation of Abishai, or at the proposal which he made to avenge his master’s cause on this insulting adversary. But we do wonder at David’s forbearance under this heavy trial, and at,

II. David’s meek submission to his trial.

David would not allow Abishai to execute his proposal, and to inflict on Shimie, this daring rebel, the deserved punishment. He chose rather to endure all the insults that were heaped upon him; and to this he was led by two considerations:

1. David saw the hand of God in this trial.

Repeatedly does he say, that “God had bidden this virulent adversary to curse him;” and from that consideration he puts the question to Abishai, “Who then shall say, Why have you done so? verse 10, 11.” Of course, he did not imagine that God had enjoined this man to behave thus, or had actually infused into his mind a disposition to commit so great a transgression. When “God hardened the heart of Pharaoh, Exodus 4:21,” he only left him to harden his own heart. When God “sent forth an evil and lying spirit into the prophets of Ahab,” he only gave permission to the evil spirit to enter into them, 1 Kings 22:21-23.

In fact, the creature, even while he acts most freely, executes, even as the murderers of our blessed Lord did, “what God’s mind and His counsel had determined before to be done! Acts 4:28.” The creature, whatever his own mind and purpose may be, is only “a rod, or staff, or sword in Jehovah’s hand,” to execute his holy will! Isaiah 10:5-7.

And though this does not excuse the creature, who, in fact, thinks of doing his own will only, it must reconcile us to what is done, no less than if it had been done directly and immediately by God himself! Thus Job viewed the losses he sustained through the rapacity of the Chaldeans and Sabeans, who took away all his cattle, and slew his servants, “Shall I receive good at the Lord’s hands, and shall I not receive evil? The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away! Blessed be the name of the Lord! Job 1:21; Job 2:10.”

From this consideration, David was enabled to submit with meekness to the invectives of Shimei, and to say, as Eli, “It is the Lord; may he do what seems good to him! 1 Samuel 3:18.” This is the account he himself gives us, “I was silent, and opened not my mouth, because You are the one who has done this! Psalm 39:9.”

2. David looked to God to overrule this trial for his good.

It is God’s privilege to bring good out of evil, for the benefit of his believing people. David was no stranger to the history of Joseph, nor of the testimony which Joseph bore respecting the sufferings which had been inflicted on him by his brethren, “It was not you who sent me here; but God, to save your lives by a great deliverance.” “You indeed thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass as it is this day, to save many people alive, Genesis 45:7-8; Genesis 50:20.”

David hoped that God would in some way sanctify to him this dispensation. He well knew, that God “chastens his people for their profit, to make them partakers of his holiness; and that affliction, though not joyous at the present, but grievous, will, through God’s blessing upon it, work out the peaceable fruits of righteousness to them that are exercised thereby, Hebrews 12:10-11.” And he hoped that God would make this severe visitation “work for his good, Romans 8:28;” or, at all events, whatever might be the effect of it here, it would issue well at the last, by “working out for him a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory in the eternal world! 2 Corinthians 4:17.”

This hope pacified and composed his mind, and enabled him to “possess his soul in patience;” while Abishai, yielding to the impulse of an irritated mind, would gladly have executed on the offender the judgment he deserved.

Learn, then, brethren, from this subject,

1. What spirit you are to manifest under any injuries you sustain.

In no respect are you to indulge an angry and vindictive spirit; but, rather, to follow the example of our blessed Lord, who, under the most injurious treatment that ever was endured in this world, opened not his mouth, but was silent, even as a “sheep before its shearers.” Instead of rendering evil for evil, we are to return nothing but good; and to seek for victory in no other way; as God has said, “Do not be overcome of evil; but overcome evil with good.” Doubtless this is a difficult path; but it will surely bring upon us the divine blessing, both in this world and in the world to come.

2. How you are to obtain this submissive spirit to God’s afflictive providences.

You have seen what considerations influenced the mind of David; and the same will produce a similar effect on your minds.

1. The first thing to be sought by you is a deep sense of your own sinfulness. Let that abide upon your minds, and nothing that man can inflict will greatly wound you. However heavy your trial may be, you will say, “Why should any living man complain when punished for his sins? Lamentations 3:39.” Anything short of the miseries of Hell, especially if it tends to avert those miseries, will be accounted rather a mercy to be thankful for, than a judgment to be deplored! Matthew 5:10-12; 1 Peter 4:12-13.

2. The next thing is, to realize in your souls the universal agency of Divine Providence; so as to see, that “no trouble whatever springs out of the dust! Job 5:6,” but that everything, even to the falling of a sparrow, or of a hair from your head—is ordered by the Lord, Matthew 10:29-30. Your nature may indeed recoil from suffering; and you may deprecate it, even as our Lord himself did, when he desired that the cup which had been put into his hands might pass away from him. But this you will do with submission, saying, “Not my will, but may your will be done!” And when you see what the Lord’s will is, you will chide your reluctant spirit, saying, “The cup which my Father has given me—shall I not drink it? John 18:11.”

Finally, look to the outcome of your trials, and then you will be moved by nothing that either men or devils can do, Acts 20:24. “You have heard of Job’s perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy, James 5:11.

If God’s furnace is to purge away your dross, you will not greatly regret that God allows you to be put into it. You will expect his presence with you in your troubles for your comfort and support, Malachi 3:3; Daniel 3:25; and a rich compensation for them in the world to come! 2 Timothy 2:12; Revelation 7:14-15.

Get but these thoughts wrought into your hearts, and you will bear the heaviest calamities with resignation, and “commit your souls to God in well doing, as into the hands of a faithful Creator! 1 Peter 4:19.”

Charles Simeon